When I ask my clients, what stops them from being the best they can be, the reasons are far and wide. The biggest reason overall is fear. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown and even fear of success. With Asians, there is the added complexity of the fear of going against their family’s wishes.
Nobody likes to be called ‘lazy’ but if we’re not doing what we could to better ourselves, it either means we’re avoiding doing the things we don’t enjoy, or we don’t want it enough. And the reality is, we all have to do things we don’t enjoy to get to our destination.
Fear of going against one’s family’s wishes means there is an emotional stake at play; be it that they have a reliance on them, such as financial support, or a sense of shame and disobedience. See Self-Love and Emotional Resilience.
Being lazy about doing something isn’t the same as being a lazy person. We all have 24 hours in the day. Instead of doing the things to be their best selves, people are passing time that they enjoy.
I dislike writing, yet you are reading the very words I have written for my entire copy. A lot of businesses fail because they dislike doing things that they don’t like such as sales and marketing.
The most successful people in world have one thing in common. That is consistent and positive habits.
People that get stuck in the spiral of ‘laziness’ eventually develop bad habits, and it’s called self-sabotage. When sabotage takes hold of someone’s life, they’ll begin to beat themselves up. They’ll become frustrated that they should be doing more with their lives, not meeting expectations and not fulfilling their potential. And before they know it, time flies by and they feel less and less inclined to believe that they can change things and they feel that their life was wasted.
When my work is complete with my clients, they continue to have fulfilled careers and livelihoods. They develop the positive habits needed to lead successful lives and be proud of themselves.
You can start your road to success by projecting what your success looks like, however impossible it may seem. Unless you’re a 55-yearold looking to become an astronaut (but you only just thought about doing that right?). And ask yourself this, if you were to die tomorrow, what would you regret not having accomplished or lived?
Make those your goals right now and I’d invite you to book in a free consultation with me, so that we can look at how we could overcome your challenges and start building a strategy to achieving your aspirations.